a manager that understands Is also "an employee who communicates effectively" and the someone-is-wrong-on-the-internet cycle continues. If that's not what I want (and I am wont to want it), then non-violent communication is a method I can use to try and escape the loop along with my antagonist. The cycle is easy and my default. Non-violent communication tends not to be what I want to do in the moment. I don't really like seeing myself as a virtue-ninny either. Pretenseing as a winner strokes the part of my ego that's used to be stroked. Your milage may vary. For me, non-violent communication looks like a channel for personal growth. I'm already really good at being an asshole from long practice and innate talent. Good luck.