What you're hearing is the result of introspection. At the end of the day it's easier (for someone privileged to be in this line of work) to just suck it up and make house-and-kid money than to date around looking for someone who wants to hitch their wagon to a slacker. And I really do love my wife and son to pieces
Not to be a dick, but if you find that you are attracting a certain type of person that you don't want to, then it's time for some introspection.