The reason you're getting flak is that it sounds like you're saying "I mean, I'm not saying her fault, but basically, she should have expected it, so it's her fault."
This may just be because textual communication is hard. Letting you know in case that's not what you mean.
Her final plea for "no touching" is beyond reasonable, it shouldn't even have to be said or explained.
Just like it should not have to be explained, if people drink a lot, sooner or later those people are going to do insanely stupid, irreversible things, like drive drunk.
This may just be because textual communication is hard. Letting you know in case that's not what you mean.