Right. This way of describing it is much closer to "zero-worlds" or relational quantum mechanics, and to my mind is a far simpler, deeper way of understanding what's really going on - reality is simply all entanglement.
What really still gets me is the way it's not simply that the atom wasn't interacted with, but that if the information about the interaction never leaks to the outside world - if it's "erased" after the interaction takes place - then the system still behaves as if the interaction never took place.
It undermines not just the concept that matter really exists, but time as well.
Do you have a source for this "information leaking" concept. I remember hearing about an experiment confirming such an idea, but I can't recall what it was.
I'm not sure the exact experiment performed in the article (which sounded similar), but I've always thought the delayed choice quantum eraser was about the best example of this, once you spend some time understanding the experiment and results:
Can you elaborate on the similarities? I took a course on medieval philosophy and theology (Anselm, Aquinas, Avicenna, and so on) so I am earnestly interested, but the connection isn't jumping out at me.
So does a thing which is not affecting anything else and not being measured exist? No! QED